May 11, 2010

The Evaporation of Masculinity


We're in a sad situation in society today. Most men suppress their basic masculinity. In many cases men do not even know how to act in a masculine way. True masculinity, assertive, aggressive, disciplined and protective. These traits are lacking in far too many men. Most women want these traits in their men despite what they may say publicly.

Women want the warrior in a man. Now please understand what I'm saying. A woman does not want a man who fight all the time or abuse her. A woman wants a man who will fight to protect her and their family and who will have the character and principles to fight for what he believes in. Think about the warrior for a second. The true warrior is the person who has the ability to fight for his beliefs but will also have the ability to know when to fight...

...a man's inner masculinity starts with a man taking control over the one thing he is able to exercise 100 percent control over: HIMSELF. Far too many men are followers. They are part of the herd. Many "go along to get along" They refuse to step outside the box. They will take a stand that goes against the majority. The reason they do this is because of fear.

Going against the majority can bring pain, criticism, condemnation and ridicule. Most men will go against their own principles to avoid these consequences (change mine). The main issue with the Nice Guy is that they will suppress themselves just to be with the women of their desires. I have talked with both Nice Guys and the women who have been in relationships with them. Nice Guys generally put up with poor treatment just to be with the women. On the other side of the coin, women have complained about the passive nature of the Nice Guys. The Nice Guy is really operating out of fear, generally the fear that women will not respond to him if he is more assertive. The bad thing is that the average Nice Guy is not consciously aware of this. Fear is also a factor with the Masked Men. It is fear keeps the mask on. Masked Men fear that if women see past their status, their possessions and their money, they will be rejected.

To develop his inner masculine the man must first become a warrior and confront himself and who he has become. He must then take FULL responsibility for his life.
  

Adam was man who blamed everyone but himself for his problems. When he loses job he blames his employers. When women reject him, he calls them stupid and says that they can't handle a "strong man". He blames everyone for his problems, but he will not look in the one place he should to correct his issues: himself. The same energy he uses on the athletic field or in a bar room fight must be channeled to confronting his issues…

I strongly recommend for ALL men to take economic control of their life. Too many men are totally dependent on others for economic survival. Not to say that working for someone is bad but every single man should have some type of way to legally make money that he can control. For example, Ben is a man with a steady job working for a government agency. The job pays well with great benefits. Despite this, Ben has a side business doing home improvements. If anything were to happen with his government job he would still have something to fall back on…


 "A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him"


                                                                                                                                             -Von. C

May 10, 2010

Women: More Important than We Realize

Women really do rule the world.  They just haven't figured it out yet.  When they do, and they will, we're all in big big trouble. (“Doctor Leon,") Yesterday I was thinking to myself where would I be without my mother. The answer being I wouldn’t be here today. Men often take advantage of women in life and neglect the fact that women are the second biggest influences upon most of our lives after us.
On my journey to being a man the world taught me that women would hinder me more than help me in life. As I grow older I learn that women just as men as misguided by things such as the media and without them men are nothing. A lot of the things we did as men growing up associated directly with women. Getting good grades (to please mom), wanting all the new jordans (to please the girls), and playing sports (we loved it but we all know about groupies).
You see our mother is the first person we learn to love. Upon birth we cannot see and things are blurry but the first person to feed us is our mom. You learn to love women and care for them. The bible tells us that women come from man and to many men this is a sense of being above them.
I ask this again, “What would we be without women?” and to be honest I have no real answer to this. Just imagine this picture, No reproduction so the world would not have lasted this long, no one to nurture children, no reason to be “the man” because all you would surrounded by is other men.
Without my mother my purpose in life would not be as fulfilling. I was reading one of my twitter followers blogs (http://planetlover-treehugger.tumblr.com/) and in one of the posts she talked about a conversation she had with her dad. She basically spoke on how her father said that his job was to provide for her and that it was not her job to repay him. After reading this I thought to myself about my mother.
Personally my father died when I was 14 so I’ve been on my journey to manhood since then. She guided me through this and this was not something she had to do. As I get older I realize this and this pushes me to work harder.
You see women do not choose to be emotional creatures. Yet they know how to love and how to teach a man to endure. A big part of manhood is the women which you come from. Men learn many things from women that men cannot teach. So the next time you see your mother tell her you love her and that her influence on your life is just as important as any other. Don’t wait until mother’s day because one day she will be gone.

-Geoffrey Allison

May 9, 2010

Dear Mom...



Dear Mama,       
I contemplated what to get you
I thought about clothes but I remembered
Nothing in life can describe, let alone fit you
Then came electronics, for these you have a fondness
However little did you know your brain is far beyond this
You see you know things computers don’t
And tell me things the world wont

So what was left was this
A poem
Something less affordable
But never the less a gift
Something to conjure up thought in your mind
Because as I become man I realize
Material things pass with time

Knowledge, the greatest gift you gave me
Something for which there is no repayment
You freed my mind from the world’s enslavement
While keeping us off the pavement
So I work hard daily
Like you did for your baby
Cause I probably wouldn’t carry you for 9 months
That’s crazy
Just know I appreciate it
Because I could have been in a garbage can
Cut up, hung from a ceiling fan
So since I’m not let’s leave the world astounded
Just know I have the key to success
Yes I found it, It’s you mom
So I’ll use old school slang and say
“you’re the bomb”

Thank you mom
Because the present you gave me is life long
So I write this hoping you’ll remember it
Keep it bye your bedside
And I’ll work hard
Immigrant state of mind
Because this dream you started
I’ll finish it
And one day I’ll look over and say
Mama we made it
Dead or alive




Geoffrey Allison-
P.S. I love you mom even though we may not say it often

May 8, 2010

Quote of the Day

“There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.”- Nietzche

"Show no love,Love will get you killed"

       

        Love, a popular word often used and abused. Some see love as a beautiful thing while others take this word and throw it to the ground within a negative light. Recently my own thoughts began to make me wonder about this very word.
            This very word is powerful in many of ways. It is used for negative reasons and positive all in the same. In the movie “Get Rich or Die Trying” 50 Cent’s character Curtis said “Show no love, love will get you killed”. Now these very words can translate to the bible, the story of Jesus before his death.
            For those who don’t know Jesus was betrayed by someone he “loved”. His friend Judas sold him for money and in the end Jesus still loved him. These quotes and sayings transition over to life. You see many of us want to be loved and claim we are in love. To be completely honest, I will be the first to say there is nothing wrong with that. Being in love and loving someone (or something) is fine.
            Recently however, a friend of mine posed the question to me “What do you feel about love?” All my life I have answered this question but now after finding out who I am as an individual my answer has changed. You see in my opinion love is something that can either hurt you or greatly hinder you.
            Love can help you in many ways but the biggest thing I see in loving anything or anyone is that it must bring peace to your life. Loving something must make you happy but it must not take the place of your personal happiness. This is where many of the cons with love come in.
            Love must not be your source of confidence and self-determination. I feel as though many men and women in this day search for something/someone to love in order to fill a personal void. This should not be the case regardless of the situation you are in. Have you ever heard of someone successful with no loves? Whether they be physical or not is not the point.
            The overall point to love is to find things that help you to maintain your sanity on earth. Single mothers often love their children and doing everything for them makes them happy. The same can be said for a man who does things for his woman that are viewed as outrageous. If that man and that single mother truly love themselves they know what they are doing. They choose to do the things they do because it puts them at peace but they also must remember that the day that peace stops their actions must stop.
Even though you are in love there are some things that you just can’t tell anyone or discuss. If you’re in love with yourself, then you will know your likes and dislikes. Remember that I’m not saying love is bad. Just remember to love yourself because when everything you love is gone you will be the only one/thing left to please. If you don’t learn to please yourself while pleasing others then Love is unimportant right now in your life. 

-Geoffrey Allison

May 4, 2010

What a Suit Tells People......The Importance of You


"A Man is defined by what he wears"


Whether you are heading in for a job interview, to church, or to a banquet a man should always be well dressed. Knowing what to wear is very important, and knowing how to wear it is just as vital. They key to a good suit is knowing your size and colors. Here are some key tips to wearing a suit properly.

suitmeasurments1. Know your size: It is very important that you know your measurements when buying a suit.
The most important of those measurements is your chest. Those measurements typically range from 34-62 and most average sized males fall in the 40 range. You also need to know what length you need. Off the rack, the lengths will read short, regular, long, and extra long. You need to know this because you don’t want your jacket to be too short on your arms, or too long either. Typically these sizes are correlated to your height; shorter men will wear a short suit and taller guys will wear long or extra long suits. If your suit is custom made your tailor will be able to take those measurements and cut the perfect size.
The next most important measurement is your waist. This gives you the fitted look and reduces the bulk in your pants. Your inseam, which is measured from the top of your inner thigh to your ankle, is crucial as well. Pants should fall at the top of your ankles; you do not want a lot of extra material around your ankles as it looks too bulky and sometimes can get caught under your shoe causing your pants to get dirtier faster than normal or even rip.

doulbe breasted suit2. Color: Stick to the basics. Grays, navy blues, blacks, olive greens, dark browns, tans/khakis, and off whites are acceptable, though the lighter colors should be saved for the warmer seasons, mainly spring and summer. Pinstripes are a good choice especially in the darker shades like charcoal gray and navy blue. The brighter colors like reds, purples, royal blues, are a no-no. They tend to make you look like a pimp, and you can definitely lose some credibility walking into anyone’s office or meeting wearing the brightest suit you can find.

3. Materials: Most suits are made of wool or khaki. When buying off-the-rack stick to that, 100% wool or khaki. Denim and silks are a DON’T. Period. You can also do linens but reserve those for the warmer seasons as well.

4. Styles: Right now two buttons are in. Three buttons are still acceptable but if you are trying to make a fashion statement, two buttons are the way to go.
Vent’s are in as well, you can go with either the side vent, which is two slits at the bottom of your jacket on the outside edge of your back, or you can go with the center vent which is self explanatory.
A new trend, or renaissance if you may, is the re-emergence of the double breasted suit which was popular during the days of the Harlem Renaissance. If you are looking to make a bold statement this is the way to go.
There is also the good old three piece suit which includes the jacket, pants, and vest. When wearing a three piece keep the jacket buttons to a minimum; two are adequate.
As far as pants are concerned you want to stick to the basics, nothing fancy. Go with a plain front, no cuffs. Pleats, which are those folds you see on the front of pants at the belt line, are passé. They were popular in the early 90’s and chances are our dad’s still love them. Cuffs were popular in the late 90’s and early 2000’s but are fading away.
shirt and tie5. Shirts: Knowing your size here is very important.
The two most important measurements here are you neck size and arm length. Your neck size is the distance around your neck, they start at 14 and are measured in halves all the way up to 22. Arm length is measured from the top of your shoulder to a point just ½ an inch below your wrist. These measurements range from 32 to 39.
When picking a color go with the simpler colors, usually white and pastels. Bolder colors like red, royal blue, and black, should be reserved for evening events. Also know what kind of collar you like. There are many different styles. You have the traditional, tab, button down, pin collar, and spread. The spread collar varies in size they are wider depending on what you are more comfortable with.

6. Tie: You can choose pretty much any kind of tie you like. Stay away from very flashy designs, they tend to make you look like an aspiring pimp  just like those bright suits mentioned before. Solid colors, stripes, and paisley are good choices. However, when wearing a striped shirt, stick to a non striped tie you don’t want lines going in different directions it can make you look too busy.
Knowing how to tie a tie is very important. There are several different types of knots; Windsor, half Windsor, four-in-hand, Prince Albert and small knots. Wider knots work better with spread collars. If you are really looking to make a splash you can do a bow-tie.
To learn how to tie any of these visit Brooks Brothers website; there you can find step by step directions on each knot.
wintips7. Shoes: If you can find a good pair of wingtips you’re headed in the right direction. You can never go wrong with a good pair of wing tips. They were out of style for a while but they are certainly back. If you can’t find a pair of wing tips just a simple pointed dress shoe will do just fine. Square toes are not as fashionable as they were in the early 2000’s, so if you have a pair it is time for an upgrade. Wooden soles are also a preferred; it’s nice for people to hear you coming. As for colors stick to black and brown it is that simple.

tieclip8. Accessories: As far as accessories go you can add a pocket square, also known as a handkerchief to your suit. Also wear cufflinks, a tie clip or tie pin, suspenders (if need be), and of course a belt.
Your belt should always match your shoes. If you have no choice wear what you have but if you can match them up, it is a great asset.
Pocket squares are a nice addition. You can never go wrong with a plain white pocket square but to add a little more flare to your outfit you can match your pocket square to your tie. There are times when your pocket square and tie do not have to match but make sure you know what you’re doing, don’t do a tie and pocket square with two different colors and two different patterns.
Cuff links are strictly worn with French cuff shirts. Tie clips or tie pins are worn to keep your tie in place so if you take your jacket off and lean forward your tie does not fall in your food or drink. For cuff links, tie clips and tie pins, less is more. You do not want too many designs it can be distracting. So when in doubt, “KISS”, Keep it simple stupid.
So let’s recap
  • Know your size
  • Simple colors
  • Know which style you prefer and which suits suit you best
  • Wool, kaki and linen are the materials to stick with
  • Two button double breasted and three pieces suits are in style
  • Know your shirt size – neck and arms and which kind of collar you prefer
  • Know how to tie a tie
  • Pointed toe shoes in brown or black
  • If you accessorize you have several options but keep it simple on each one

The most important thing is to be confident in what you are wearing; don’t slouch it doesn’t make the suit look good; and remember you wouldn’t have worn it if you didn’t think it suited you well, pun intended.

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May 3, 2010

Greatness Opens Doors

Download Southside Chicago's and #NT's Very own G.o.D Jewels new mixtape "Greatness Opens Doors"

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