Women and Makeup
I posted this to see what women's opinions on the matter where. Why do women in college who are educated feel that their only way to gain the attention of a man is to wear makeup and live this flamboyant lifestyle? You see my personal believe is that girls who do this will only look great on Friday Nights. Every male in college knows about the Friday Night girl. The girl who is never dressed during the week and her hair looks a mess but on friday you see her and it's like "WHOA" where did you come from I didnt even know you went to school with me.
I understand looking your best on a friday night perhaps when your headed to the club but see the problem with this is that its not true beauty. A man who finds a women in the club only wants a few things from her. Most of the time women you are correct when you say I know he only wants one thing. Well lets analyze a possible situation
Your in the club in a skin tight dress
The man comes and dances with you before he even talks to you
He touches you in a seductive way
He then asks for your number
He takes you on maybe 1 or 2 outings
Now he's talking about sex
You see how the relationship began is how it will end if it starts physically then it will end that way. Makeup doesnt have to be used in my opinion to make a girl look attractive. I feel it's a lack of self confidence that makes women do this to themselves. Women will argue that they do this just because but you see truth of the matter is that no human is perfect so why try and be that by using makeup?
Ladies comment with honest reasons you use makeup and If you dont explain why your friends might
Please :-)
6 comments :
I agree with this article on the behalf of men to a great extent. In particular, women have no leg in which to stand on when making accusations about both being viewed as sexual objects and or outright being used for sex when they participate in the assumption by wearing a costume befitting of those particular stereotypes.
I believe this is a multi-dimensional problem much deeper than most would perceive. Thus, I am going to attempt to break it down as I see it.
First, women don't realize that natural beauty is MOST desirable. The ability for a woman to look her best, "sweat pants, hair tied...chillen with no makeup on," is becoming more and more of a rarity. Men don't like waking up in the morning to a female who, the night before, looked like a dime piece and the morning of looks like a penny, that was subsequently run over by a train. All that this means ladies...is that the men were tricked just as much as you were. Yes...you may have believed that the man was going to like you for you, but unfortunately for you,you deceived him with pounds/hours of makeup, fake nails, hair extensions (I am not talking about just black chics, either), fake eyelashes, fancy clothing, high heels, perfume...etc. To all of those who would choose to now attack me on the hair extension issue, I have a few great guy friends, all of who date white chics who have told me of incidents where they got home with her, the next morning she took her fake lashes off, makeup off, put on some regular clothes and even started to take out her hair which appeared to be mid-back length and was now above-shoulder length...and they felt down right played. Shortly thereafter, they exited said womens' bedrooms never to contact them again. Now, the woman's perspective is that they were a dirty dog. The man was a player. He used her..blah blah blah. Umm...hello ladies, no, you tricked them, and they were not trying to hear it. So, stop complaining both parties are played by the Friday Nighter.
(2nd Half) My next argument is targeted straight at the ladies. HAVE SOME DAMN PRIDE IN YOURSELF! A woman who wants to look good for herself is 10 steps ahead of the game. LOL...don't just do your hair one day a week. Don't just shower and get all lotioned and perfumed up just on Fridays. Take care of yourself everyday. Don't feel the need to make yourself look like a clown in order to just walk out of the house. There is something to be said about a woman that seems clean and well-taken care of. These attributes in of themselves are attractive. Why not try to go natural? Put on a MINIMAL amount of makeup, almost to the point where it looks as though you have none on and flaunt your natural beauty. Ladies you can look just as cute headed to the store in a pair of sweatpants with a beater and a hat with your hair in a pony tail wearing some light lip gloss as in some heals and an ass-cheek showing skirt with your breasts hanging out. Let's be honest ladies...who does a man want to be with, to make his wife?? One of those descriptions of a woman is designed to last one night for a man while the other is designed to last for a life. Remember the saying, "You cannot make a ho into a housewife?" Well, this could not be more true. Find your inner beauty, display confidence, demand respect and celebrate your true beauty. You will be amazed where it takes you. Additionally, I don't know about you ladies, but I want a man to love me for who I am, not to love the magazine version of me. Love me at my worst, or as I am, or not at all.
Now, the media does not help. All of the most desirable women are all dolled up right? They are wearing Chanel and Mac Makeup with designer purses and sexy dresses. Their hair always seems perfect, their pedicure always tight and their bodies always in shape. Well guess what, they are not. Find some pictures of these celebrities without makeup, trust me it will make you feel better. Their bodies have flaws, just like ours, they get acne just like us and yes they have bad hair days. In these magazines though, they are so airbrushed and touched up that ladies, we simply cannot trust their appearance. With this being said; here is the problem. The media makes us all want to be perfect, to dress and groom as the stars do. This is a lot of pressure on women. Also, we must take into consideration that we do not have the amount of money that these women posses...which is what I believe leads to the Friday Nighter.
Here is why. A woman could not afford to get their hair done and buy a new outfit to look amazing 7 days out of the week. Well, most women. So, the trend that I believe many woman fall into is giving up for 6 days of the week and only striving to look their best for one day, or for special events. They figure, oh well...everybody knows what I look like when I dress up. But, as I mentioned before, this does not help their self-esteem, and is indeed really really fake.
Well, I am tired of ranting now. I don't know who agrees or who does not, but please feel free to comment. This is a very interesting topic.
im sure this was already said but if a girl is not pretty/confident with herself before she wears make up then putin that on her face its not gunna make a difference but emphasize the flaws she thinks she has. personally, i wear make up but i also know im bad without it and 4/5 days you will see me without it on. the days i do wear it its because im tryin to blend my skin because some places are lighter than others, or im tryin to hide blemishes. its NEVER to make myself look "prettier". the natural look to me is amazin and i give props to those girls who know how to work it natural!!!! :)
I feel as though makeup should only be for special occasions. I think that if you aren't comfortable in your own skin then you need to deal with that issue on its own but using make up to cover it up is not the answer. I feel that, if you are going to wear makeup it should be used to enhace your already natural beauty.
People get so caught up in looking a certain way that they forget what they do look like. Makeup as a clutch is and never will be a good look. & whatever girl told you the natural look is out, probably hasn't been looking around to see it is and always will be in.
Girls always focus on improving their looks, not their minds. I guess cause we all know boys are stupid not blind.
I agree with @genesis some of the females I know wear makeup to enhance natural beauty. Some wear it everyday out of habit because they feel naked without it like when they do not wear earrings or something. All in all if makeup makes you feel more comfortable or enhances a quality about yourself that you like go for it. If every Friday you cake it on or just add a little blush that's your choice and your body.
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